In Java,
especially Central Java, Indonesia as well as in other places, in principle
marriage occurs because the decision two people who fell in love. Although
there are also marriages that occur because parents arranged marriage that
occurred in the past. While older people argue over
ancient Javanese proverb
: “Witing
Tresno jalaran soko kulino” , that is to say : Love to grow as accustomed.
In Java, where
family life is still strong, a marriage would bring together two great
families. Therefore, according the prevailing custom, the two beings who
establish love to tell their families that they have found the perfect match
and ideal to be husband or wife. Traditionally, consideration of acceptance of
a suitor by the “bibit, bebet and bobot. What is a “bibit, bebet, and bobot ?”
Bibit : background means
having a good family life.
Bebet : the prospective bride, especially
men, are able to meet the needs
of the family.
bobot : both prospective bride
is a qualified person,
both mentally and
educated enough.
If both parties parents
and family have agreed, the next step is:
Proposal / Application
Usually that is
the candidate applying for the groom. In the past, parents prospective groom
sent a member of his family to court. But now, for the parents practical man
can directly propose to the woman's parents. When it is received, will
instantly be discussed further steps until the marriage ceremony.
In the Java
implementation of customary marriages, the prospective bride has officially is
the work, the men helped. How the implementation of the marriage ceremony,
whether simple, moderate or large party and invited many guests complete with
entertainment, in reality it would depend on the budget available. At this time
both parties are more open to discuss the budget.
Which party is more busy parents prospective
bride. The things that must be done is:
1. Kin invited
to discuss and
prepare the whole marriage process. Traditionally
formed a committee
consisting of family
members and close acquaintances and each
has a clear task. It is also important to determine the
responsible party about the dishes,
catering which to choose. The selection of catering experience essential, must
be a good and responsible and fulfilling its
service.
At present, the
practical considerations, there are
families who have
a show, all the ceremony handed over to the Event Organizer.
2. Installation Bleketepe
and Tarub
The day before the wedding ceremony, the
bride's parents' home and bleketepe Tarub fitted
front door of the front page. Created Tarub decorated
arch consisting of various Tuwuhan, ie
plants and foliage
that have symbolic
meaning. Left and right gate
installed fruiting banana trees have ripe
bananas.
Meaning: The husband will be the head of the family in the middle of society. Such as banana trees can
grow well anywhere and harmony with the environment, this new family will live a happy,
prosperous and harmonious
with the surrounding environment.
Wulung pair of cane,
sugar cane reddish, a symbol of steadiness heart,
this new couple will
build their family
wholeheartedly.
Cengkir ivory, small coconut yellow,
symbolizing both the
hardness-strength of mind,
so that the couple solemnly bound in a
common life of mutual love.
Various kinds of fresh foliage such as banyan,
mojokoro, alang-alang,
dadap srep, is
the hope that this couple live and grow up
in a family that always
survive and prosper.
Woven palm leaves called bekletepe hung
digapura doorstep, this is meant to ward
off evil spirits and all disturbances and
also be a sign that the home is being performed the marriage ceremony.
Special offerings held before installation Tarub and bekletepe, consisting
of: rice cone, various
kinds of fruits including bananas and coconut,
assorted side dishes, pastries, drinks,
flowers, herbs, tempeh,
buffalo meat, coconut sugar and a lantern. (depending on who
had the job, whether
or not such offerings).
These offerings symbolize
the petition in order to get the blessing of the
Lord, God and the blessing of the
ancestors as well as a means
to resist temptation
evil spirits. The
offerings are placed in several
places where the nuptial procession
held as the
kitchen, bathroom, front door,
under Tarub, the
street near the house etc..
Ceremonies before the
wedding
splash
of water
Spray from the origin
of the word flush, meaning
bath. The day before the wedding, both prospective
bride cleansed by
bathing ceremony called
Spray. Prospective bride's parents home
bathed, as well as the groom also bathed
her parents home.
The things that need
to be prepared to Spray:
1. Site preparation to spray, if done in the bathroom or
the back or side of the house or yard.
2. A list of people who will come to bathe. By tradition the
bride besides parents, grandparents bride, some
elders. Are invited
to join their bathing is more mature,
you should already have grandchildren and have
a reputation of a good life.
3. A number of items
are needed such
as: a water bottle, bucket,
chair, flower setaman,
linen, towels, jugs etc.
4. Offerings to
spray, there are more
than ten kinds, such as a rooster.
5. The family
bride sends a pan of water to the groom's family. Water is called holy water
perwitosari means the juice of life, the water mixed with some kind of
interest, which is placed in a container which is good, to be mixed with water
to bathe the groom.
6. The last to bathe the bride is Pemaes / makeup, the prospective bride
watered down with water from a jug. When the jug was empty, Pemaes or a
designated elders, slammed the jug on the floor and said: "Wispecah
pamore". means prospective bride is beautiful or dashing now ready to get
married.
7. Cleansing ceremony is complete and the prospective bride to wear batik motif
Grompol and covered his body with batik motifs nagasari, led back wedding
chamber. Prospective bride's daughter will be scraped by Pemaes / makeup.
Shaving ceremony
Shaving means small hairs on the face of the bride carefully scraped
by Pemaes. Bride's
hair is dried and
then smoked with hundreds / fragrant incense. Start
to apply makeup prospective
bride. Face makeup and hair bun in accordance with the pattern
that has defined
marriage ceremony.
When he finished, the bride dressed in a nice kebaya
and batik fabrics prepared and Sidoasih
sidomukti motif, symbolizing
he will live a
prosperous and respected by others.
That night, my father and mother be bride
gives to her
last mouthful, because starting tomorrow, he
is under the responsibility of her husband.
Offerings for whittling
with spray offerings.
So as a practical matter, all the offerings brought
into the room spray aisle and become
offerings to shave.
Midodareni ceremony
At the ceremony which
took place at night midodareni before Ijab
/ blessing and
found (in the Java
language called Panggih) the next morning, both parents and their groom the
groom, escorted by close family, home visiting
the parents of the bride.
Be bride after wedding
makeup in the room, looks like a stunner
widodari, angel, goddess
of heaven.
According to ancient belief, that night the bride was
accompanied by a beautiful goddess of heaven.
That night the bride should get yourself a room and can not sleep
from 6 pm to midnight. Some elderly mother
to accompany and provide
valuable advices.
Family of the prospective groom that a woman, who
came midodareni eve,
should visit the
prospective bride who was dressed in a beautiful, ready to get married
the next morning.
Custom fit, there's
room special offerings for the wedding ceremony midodareni,
there are eleven kinds
of food and goods; except that there are 7 kinds of other stuff.
Room outside wedding ceremony
Midodareni eve,
parents and the prospective bride's family, received a visit from the parents
and family of the prospective groom. They sat in the house, become acquainted
and dine together. Prospective groom is also coming, but he was not allowed in
the house and just be sitting the porch front. He was just treated to a glass
of water to drink, not to eat or drink another. It is said to exercise patience
a husband and head of the family.
Handed over or Peningsetan
In midodareni ceremony, can be handed over or in the Java language is often
referred to as peningsetan. (In the old days, before the night is done
peningsetan midodareni). Prospective parents and family of the groom give some
stuff to the parents of the bride.
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Peningset |
Peningsetan of the thinner, meaning that bind tightly, in which case the
commitment to a marriage between the two parties and the sons and daughters of
parents bride will be a family (called besan in Java).
Giving it be : A set of beautiful
betel leaf as a
symbol of hope that genuine salvation. A
set of clothing for the bride, including some
batik cloth that
symbolizes happiness. Can not
miss a stagen, belts, large white cloth
and long, as a
sign of strong determination.
Some crops such
as rice, sugar, salt, cooking oil, fruits.
as a sign of adequacy
and prosperous life
for new families
. A pair of wedding
rings for the bride and groom.
On this occasion, the groom handed over a sum
of money, as a contribution to
the implementation of the marriage
ceremony. This is
only a formality, since dues money is given in advance.
After dining together
and become acquainted, the whole family entourage
dismissed the groom's parents to come home. They
need to prepare for tomorrow is an
important implementation of a
marriage ceremony includes
religious wedding, the bride brings both traditional
ceremony and so on.
Quarantine (in the Java language called "Nyantri")
When the groom's family group home from midodareni
ceremony, the prospective groom was not invited
to come back. However, the groom nyantri
(quarantined), then he left the prospective
in-laws home. Of
nyantri previously been discussed and approved
by both parties.
Here's how to order:
The prospective groom's
parents through a
family spokesman told the prospective bride's parents,
that the groom was
not invited to return and hand over responsibility
to the parents of the prospective
bride.
After the family home,
in the middle of the night he was invited into the
house to eat, can not see his future
wife and then ushered into the bedroom to rest.
Nyantri implemented for practical standpoint, given the morning he
had to be dressed for the implementation of the wedding ceremony. Also for
the security of marriage, both bride already
was in one place
Implementation Ijab / Blessing of Marriage
Consent / blessing of marriage is
the most important thing to legalize
a marriage. Consent
or marriage performed
in accordance with both the bride
religion, can Islam,
Christianity, Catholicism, Hinduism, Buddhism, Confucianism.
Preparation for the blessing / Ijab, to be really
careful, so smoothly and safely.
Ijab after completion,
meaning that brides are valid as husband
and wife.
Ceremony "Panggih" or Matching Bride.
Traditionally ceremony "Panggih" or bring home bride carried bride's
parents.
At the appointed time, the groom escorted by
his brothers except his parents
that should not be present at this ceremony, the
bride arrived in front of the house and stopped
in front of the door of the house. Meanwhile, the bride is escorted by his
brothers and his parents followed, to welcome the
arrival of the groom and the
house next door stops. In front of the
bride, two little girls called "patah” (clamp)
brings fan. Two
young boys or
two mothers, each bearing a special flower
arrangement called "Kembar
mayang” (Virgin twins). A mother
bridesmaids men forward and provide "sanggan"
to the mother of the bride as a sign of respect for
the solemnization of marriage.
Sanggan was a
banana wrapped in
banana leaves and put on the
tray.
At the time of the
ceremony Panggih, Virgin twins were taken out of
the house and dumped the street intersection near the house or near
the course of the marriage ceremony,
meaning that the
ceremony runs safely and there was no disturbance
of any kind and from any party.
Betel
Leaves throws (in Java called " Balangan
Suruh")
Both bride and meet face to face at
a distance of about two or three feet, they stopped and
deftly tossed the
stuffed betel leaf
ties with whiting
and tied with
string. This ritual is called "Balangan suruh".
Both bride earnest
throwing betel leaves with a smile, accompanied by all those who witnessed the excitement. According to ancient belief, betel leaves have the power to
ward off evil spirits. So by throwing betel
leaves, the bride and groom bride
is absolutely true,
not false.
Being Ritual Seeds
(Java called "Wiji
Dadi")
The groom stepped on a chicken egg to
burst with her right foot, then the foot is washed by
the bride with flower
water. Meaning: households headed by a responsible husband with a good wife, would
generate a good thing as well, including the descendants.
Ritual Kacar Kucur
or Tampa Kaya
(received results of operations of
the groom).
A bride and groom to walk hand in hand with his
little finger toward the front of the aisle /
krobongan, the place where the ceremony the
reception (Java called "Tampa Rich") was held. Ceremony "Kacar
Kucur" illustrates: husband gave all
his earnings to his wife. In this ritual the
husband gives to the wife:
bean, soy, rice,
corn, nasi yellow,
dlingo Bengle, several
sorts flowers and
of money metal with
amount even-numbered. Wife receives wholeheartedly
with a piece of
white cloth which is put on
a piece of old mat that is placed on his
lap. It means the wife will
be a housewife good
and careful
Note: In the first
period, Tampa Kaya ritual, Dhahar kembul
etc., is done in
front of the existing krobongan
senthong middle (Living
room an ancient house that was used to make offerings).
At present, the
ritual still held
despite the marriage ceremony was held in the halls of the meeting or hotel.
Wedding decoration chair behind a wood carving is shaped krobongan. This
is to follow the times and while still preserving
the tradition.
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Ceremonies |
Ritual "Dhahar Klimah or Dhahar Kembul" (eating
together with one plate)
In the presence of the bride's parents and close relatives, the bride and groom
eat together, feed each other. Groom makes three spheres of yellow rice with
side dishes such as fried eggs, tempeh, soy, shredded, chicken liver. Then he
scooped his wife, then his wife feeding her husband dressing, topped with sweet
tea together. This symbolizes that from now on they will use and enjoy with what
they have.
"Mertui or Mapag Besan" (pick up the parents, the
groom)
Both parents pick
up the bride groom's parents in front of the house (marriage halls to pick her
up in front of the room where the event ritual) and let them enter the house / room
where the ceremony, then they walked together to the place of the ceremony. Mothers
walked in front, fathers accompanied from behind. Both parents of the groom seated
left the bride, bride's parents sit on the right bride.
Ceremony "Sungkeman" (please blessing of the
parents)
A bride and
groom do sungkem the parents of both parties. At first the parents of the bride
and then the groom's parents. Sungkem is a sincere form of respect to parents and
elders.
At the time sungkem (saluting the squatting position, both hands and kissed knees
worshiping the requested blessing), keris groom used first and restraints removed
by cosmetic, after completion sungkem, dagger worn again.
Parents with emotion sungkem receive homage in the form of the son of his
daughter and at the same time also gave his blessing so that they lead a life
of harmony, peace. Without saying the words, actually the parents of the bride are
giving symbolized blessing of batik cloth worn truntum that pattern, meaning Have
the considerable fortune during life. Both parents also use a big belt whose
name sindhur with image patterns with curved lines and curves, meaning that parents
cautioned her two children so always be cautious, wise in real life in this
world.
Ceremony "Sindhur Binayang"
After Dadi Wiji ritual, the bride's father walked in front of the
bride and groom to the bride
in front of the seat to krobongan, while the
bride's mother walked
behind second bride,
the bride and groom's shoulder and
covered with a cloth sindhur.
It symbolizes, the father shows the way to happiness, the
mother's favor.
Weigh (weighing)
Both bride together
the bride's father sat down lap. After pondering
for a moment, the father said: Same weight,
meaning father loved
both, equally, are not distinguished.
Ceremony "Tanem"
Furthermore, the father of the bride and
groom sit in a chair aisle. It to strengthen its approval of the marriage and
gave his blessing.
Ceremony "Bubak Kawah"
Bride's father, after the
convocation ceremony, drinking salad
degan / coconut
krobongan front. His
wife asks: How Sir taste? Answered:
Well fresh once,
hopefully people at
home are also fresh. Then she joined the drink tasted a bit
of the same glass, followed by son and
last child bride.
It is a symbol that
the bride segeradikaruniai petition descent.
Ceremony "Tumplak Punjen"
This ritual is
performed by parents who marry off his daughter for the last time. Tumplak means
to pour or provide all, parents Punjen is a treasure that has been collected since
their marriage.
In this ritual, the parents are happy, krobongan front, giving her ("Punjen")
to all the children and descendants. Symbolically to each given a small parcel containing
spices, yellow rice, coins of gold, bronze and copper etc..
By holding Tumplak Punjen, parents want to set an example for their descendants,
that they sudahpurna task and that the next generation is always menyukuri gift
of God and able to perform his duties properly.
Ceremony "Swap Kalpika"
To exchange wedding rings as a sign of love
and attachment to the legitimate husband and wife.
Wedding Reception
After the marriage
ceremony the whole series was completed, a reception, where both the new bride,
with both sides flanked parents, received congratulations from the guests.
In the reception, attendees are welcome to eat food that has been provided, while
a social time with relatives and acquaintances. Sometimes, before the reception
starts, held classical Javanese dance drama performances suitable for marriage like
a musical or dance Karonsih Pergiwo Ghatotkacha, which depicts a loving
relationship women and men.
With this dish can hopefully add to the discourse on our cultural traditions ...
regards,
dwh